"As a teenager, as a twenty-something year old, I always wanted to be thinner. I still struggle with that some. But I try to stay focused on not thinking about thin and think about fit and think about strong and healthy, rather than size so much. I think I’m better looking with a little more curve.
Coming out as lesbian allowed me to play around with gender and the ways that I did femininity in some different ways. So, especially during my twenties and thirties, I dressed more androgynous and wore less-revealing clothing in terms of the curviness of my body. I got to move back and forth along a gender presentation spectrum in a way that now allows me to feel more comfortable in this more feminine presentation where I’ve landed at this moment."